"I'm Sorry...And I Love You!"
HOWEVER, I just had a conversation with my mom, who works at a school in Brooklyn, New York. An African-American, female aide has been having problems with some of the Russian aides. Basically, they reported her for "wandering around" after she stopped doing some of their work. So, she stopped speaking to them and stays away from their classroom.
Well, that wasn't good enough. And, the school (like many offices) isn't big enough to avoid people forever. So, they all run into each other and words are exchanged after the Black aide is accused of being "rude."
They go back and forth arguing for a few minutes. When a Russian teacher comes into the room, she listens to what is going on for a couple of minutes. Then...
She pulls the Black aide to the side and tells her that she should feel bad for speaking that way to women who are older than she is. And...
She is told that she needs to immediately apologize to the Russian women and tell them that she loves them.
This is literal.
She is told, "...go tell them you're sorry and that you love them."
The Black aide apologizes to the women, although she doesn't think she did anything wrong and although the arguing was instigated by the Russian women.
They do not apologize to her.
This is crazy, but not unbelievable to me. I've known about Blacks being asked to apologize for all types of things, even things that weren't their fault. And, I've been asked to apologize to Whites coworkers myself.
I HAVE NEVER APOLOGIZED TO ANYONE because someone thought they could intimidate me into doing so or even if they asked nicely.
Being asked to apologize to Whites, even when you haven't done something wrong...
just another issue that many Blacks face in the workplace.