Thursday, May 24, 2007

Who's Really Being "Hostile" In the Workplace?

Scenario #1: A white mid-level worker approaches a Black mid-level worker and asks the Black mid-level worker to perform administrative tasks for him/her. The white mid-level worker is not the manager or supervisor of the Black mid-level worker and isn’t in any position of authority over the Black worker. The white mid-level worker hasn’t even approached the Black mid-level worker’s actual supervisor for permission to ask them to do work of any level—let alone administrative work! The Black mid-level worker informs the white mid-level worker, “I’m sorry, but I’m not an administrative assistant. I don’t perform the tasks you need assistance with. Even if I could provide you with assistance, it wouldn’t be fiscally responsible for someone making my salary to be performing that type of work. Perhaps you should speak to the boss about getting some help with that.” The White mid-level worker leaves the encounter and reports to the Black employee’s White supervisor that the Black employee is rude, defensive, difficult to work with, and is not a team player.

Scenario #2: A white employee approaches a Black employee and calls the Black employee by the wrong name. Both employees have worked at the company for over a year and they’ve previously worked on the same projects. The Black worker tells the white worker, “I’m not sure what the problem is. But, you seem to have a problem remembering my name—even though we’ve been introduced several times and have worked together before. My name is [NAME], not [WRONG NAME]. Please call me by my name.” The White worker leaves the encounter and reports to the Black employee’s White supervisor that the Black employee is rude, intimidating, and unapproachable.

Scenario #3: A white worker approaches a Black employee that prepares budgets. Per guidelines, all budgets that are being sent to clients must be submitted to the Black employee 2 days in advance. These procedures were recommended and approved by the Director of the department. Yet, this particular White worker chronically brings budgets to the Black employee and demands to receive the budget back in 2-4 hours. The White employee says, “But, I already promised the client they would have the budget emailed to them by the time they came back from lunch.” The Black employee says, “You should have asked me—first—if it was possible to get a budget to your client before you guaranteed the client they would receive an official budget from us. I’m working on a priority right now on a multi-million dollar contract for a major client. I couldn’t possibly get you a budget before COB tomorrow, at the earliest. I’m sorry, but I’ve explained the procedures to you before. You really have to carefully manage client expectations.” The White worker leaves the encounter and reports to the Black employee’s White supervisor that the Black worker is rude, unhelpful, isn’t a team player, is unconcerned with serving the best interests of the client, can’t prioritize his/her work, and that the Black employee tried to tell them [the White person] how to do their job.

In all 3 scenarios, the Black workers are not asked about their encounters with the white workers. Yet, the Black employees are called into their supervisors’ offices and are soundly criticized for allegedly having a negative attitude, not being team/client oriented, and for having “communication issues.”

The Black workers try to explain the encounters and are told by their supervisors, “You’re being defensive. I’m just trying to give you constructive criticism.” Each Black worker may say, “I’m not being defensive. Someone made accusations that aren’t true. I’m just trying to share my perspective on what happened.” Each White manager says something about the Black employee being sensitive and informs the Black worker that the White employee has already explained what happened. The supervisors instruct the Black employees to be “more helpful in the future.”

At no point do the White supervisors say that:

--It was improper for a coworker to ask a mid-level manager to perform work that was several job levels below the Black worker’s job function (Scenario 1);

--It is offensive to be repeatedly called by the wrong name by someone who is quite familiar with you and who doesn’t have a problem remembering anyone else’s name (Scenario 2); or

--It is improper for an employee to routinely disregard established protocol and procedures for requesting work from other staff through procedures that were recommended and approved by the head of the department;

In all 3 scenarios, the white employees thought it was reasonable to criticize the Black workers, when the white workers are the ones who should own the outcomes of these scenarios. In all 3 scenarios, the white employees made wild conclusions, complete with race-based labels, and reported their Black coworkers. In all 3 scenarios, these incidents were cited on the Black employee’s performance review as examples of areas for improvement. And, we wonder why America’s workplaces seem filled with one race-based issue after another? Really?

These 3 scenarios represent just how easy it is for Black workers to receive false labels about their attitudes and job performance. At issue, is that Black workers are often forced to work with White employees that choose to be unaccountable for their own behaviors and job performance. For instance, a Black worker may be called unhelpful, difficult to work with, rude or mean if they refuse to render assistance to a same-level white coworker that sat on an assignment until the last minute or simply forgot the work was on their desk until the day the assignment was due.

A major problem in the workplace is that, when dealing with Black workers, some whites feel they can totally disregard social norms and standard business etiquette/protocol, can ignore procedures and policies, and feel they can dictate the work day of their Black coworkers—at that very minute and without authority to do so. I can’t tell you how many Black workers complain about feeling they have 7 supervisors at work, when speaking about the number of white coworkers they encounter that behave as if they have authority over the Black person and can tell them to stop and start assignments at the drop of dime.

Unfortunately, for a Black employee to tell these sorts of White workers that they have crossed a line, that you can’t render assistance to them (for a legitimate reason), or to tell these people that you have a name—and only one name that you respond to, can cause serious problems for Blacks on the job. These types of White people only want to hear one word from their Black coworkers and that word is “yes.” Yes, I’ll drop everything. Yes, you don’t have to call me by my name. Yes, I’ll do junior level work for you. Yes, yes, yes…

If some White workers held the same mirrors on themselves that they often flash on their Black coworkers, they would be shocked to see how they have falsely portrayed a fellow team member, how they have created issues that can haunt a coworker, how they have been unfair or premature with their judgments or how they having been working with double-standards. Or, if there is true and thoughtfully racist intent, they could be happy with their achievements for the day! In either case, far too many Black workers have to spend too many portions of the day fighting wild accusations and fighting for the basic respect White workers expect and demand. Think about it…

If a White worker is the one who is refusing to call a Black worker by their rightful name, is trying to force them to do junior level work, is trying to force them to shuffle their workday—without authority to do so…who’s really being hostile, rude, and difficult to work with? And, who isn’t a team player?

4 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

This was a really informative article that struck to the heart. It's painful just to read and I am white. I will remember this article for reference on my job.

I feel sometimes when a black person sticks up for themselves, a white person takes it differently. There's alot of pain and good reason but it comes through the tone and voice inflection OR the black person could be just as normal as they would be talking to anyone and it can be taken wrong.

White people need to be enlightened. They also do not come from the same set of values or reference that a black person would come from. For example, say a white female employee asks a fellow black female employee to help with her tasks. She being female has helped several other fellow employees with their tasks and they have helped with hers. Also due to her personal background she has the tendency to help others in a codependent way even if it isn't according to the book or in her own best interest and not even think of saying no. The black employee is new to the office and minding her business doing her own work. The white employee goes up and asks the black employee for assistance and immediately the black employee sticks up for herself. From her frame of reference she is defending herself rightly and feeling she has to because she is black watch out for things. She feels upset for all the reasons mentioned above. The white employee is taken completely off guard and is confused and bewildered at the black employees response. Why? Because she is not coming from the same point of reference. She is coming from her background as a female and that is to help out where ever needed. And she is not understanding at all why the black employee responded and where she was coming from. That is the problem, they are both coming from 2 different points of reference. And black people feel the white people aren't willing to change and are angry that whites do not understand. But all the anger in the world isn't going to help change it. What's going to change it is the heart of people. Both need to come to a willingness to understand the other and think the best about the other person as much as possible.

I grew up in a black neighborhood and had a black 'stepfather'. The reason why I say this is because of the example I'm about to share. I was working at a job where one part of it I was responsible for the security in the mornings with who came in. I was told by my supervisor not to let anyone in this particular entry that didn't work there. I had just asked several people as they entered in where they worked in the building. Normally if you work some place that would not be neccessary but I had to ask because I was new and didn't know the faces. When I asked a black man he became very upset with me and defensive. He told me I saw him every morning. I did not see him every morning because I was new and I didn't see alot of people every morning. That is why I was stuck asking peoples names for several days. Well, because I understood a little from having a black stepfather, I did not go tell my white supervisor. Instead I wrote this man a email apologizing and explaining my situation. If I had not had that frame of reference from my experiences with my stepfather, I would not have understood. I would have told my white supervisor mainly because of his elevated emotional response. But I didn't let that get to me. I knew that he felt singled out and I apologized. Why did I apologize? Not because I am a white prejudice bigot who needs to grovel for every wrong ever done. I apologized because this man was a human being and had feelings.

10:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To the previous commenter who posted this:

"The white employee goes up and asks the black employee for assistance and immediately the black employee sticks up for herself. From her frame of reference she is defending herself rightly and feeling she has to because she is black watch out for things. She feels upset for all the reasons mentioned above. The white employee is taken completely off guard and is confused and bewildered at the black employees response. Why? Because she is not coming from the same point of reference. She is coming from her background as a female and that is to help out where ever needed. And she is not understanding at all why the black employee responded and where she was coming from. That is the problem, they are both coming from 2 different points of reference."

The problem with your example is that black women ARE ALSO FEMALE and no one has been used as the codependent helpers and caretakers more than black women. That may be why the black female coworker may take offense. She may feel that she is being viewed as a "mammy" subordinate rather than an equal coworker.

Also, in your example, if the white female coworker were actually codependent, than the black female coworker would complain that the white coworker is offering too much help, not that she was asking for too much help.

5:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Agreed with last post. You can reference thousands of different scenarios here where people who are lazy, slack, ignorant, hostile ,unfair, etc.. Make poor decisions that make life for the rest of us difficult at work. Those are individuals of all races

6:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

" For example, say a white female employee asks a fellow black female employee to help with her tasks. She being female has helped several other fellow employees with their tasks and they have helped with hers. Also due to her personal background she has the tendency to help others in a codependent way even if it isn't according to the book or in her own best interest and not even think of saying no. The black employee is new to the office and "

Your whole entire scenario is set up to make the white woman look kind, helpful, and great... And the black woman mean, terrible.
9/10 times people are pissed off because of HISTORY like always calling someone the wrong name, or having them run around like lackies. Not because of meeting somebody new and asking them to do a task.

Maybe you should have use the perfectly good examples provided instead of trying to insinuate racism doesn't exist, and that black people are mad for no reason.

12:03 AM  

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